WHAT DOES YOUR BODY LANGUAGE SAY
Silent Signals
- Sometimes, it doesn't even take a single word to send out a message loud & clear.
- Is your body language skewing others view of you?
- Are your expressions, gestures & positions revealing feelings you'd rather keep hidden
or that you aren't even aware of?
Licking Your Lips
- Maybe you're just daydreaming about lunch, but to a conversation partner, licking your
lips can read as sexual attraction. - You may also wet your lips when talking about a romantic partner which can be a sign
you're deeply in love.
Handshake
- Handshakes & first impressions go, well, hand in hand.
- A nice, firm grip combined with a hearty, but not too hearty, shake can imply you're
outgoing & confident. - A limp & weak squeeze sets you up as unsure.
- How long you hold your shaker's hand matters, too.
- If you drop out too quickly, it can suggest shyness.
Nodding
- Bobbing your head up & down during a conversation can make you seem agreeable & interested.
- Nods are catching, so if you nod while you speak, you might convince others to go along
with what you're saying.
Posture
- There's a reason people say they're in a slump when things aren't going their way.
- Science says slouching your shoulders can make you hold on to stress & feel sad.
- Standing up straight can help you feel positive & come across as confident & focused.
- If you have trouble standing tall, check in with your doctor to see if there's an underlying
medical cause like Osteoporosis.
Touching Your Face and Hair
- Twirling a lock, brushing back your bangs or bringing your hands to your face can come
across as flirty. - Self-grooming behaviors like these may make it seem like you're hoping for attention from someone you might like.
Locking Eyes
- A steady gaze creates a mixed bag of emotion.
- If the person you're talking to is comfortable with you, they're more likely to find you
trustworthy if you hold eye contact. - If they're unsure about you, a long look will make you seem more threatening.
- No matter what someone thinks of you, everyone has an eye contact threshold where
things start to feel awkward.
Smiling
- A feel-good grin is contagious.
- When you smile at someone, it sends a signal to their mouth muscles to do the same.
- Their smile triggers the parts of their brain that deal with happiness & they feel a greater
sense of connection with you.
Stance
- Standing wide with uncrossed legs or arms tends to give off an open & available vibe.
- Staring at the ground or keeping your arms across your chest are more likely to send
the signal that you're closed off and out of reach.
Hand Gestures
- Want to be memorable - talk with your hands.
- When you gesture as you gab, it's more likely that your words will linger in someone's mind.
- But don't overdo it because big movements may make you seem out of control & excitable.
Dilated Pupils
- You may want to where sun glasses the next time you're around your boyfriend so the you
don't give away your longing to him. - When you're interested in someone, your pupils dilate.
- It's not something you can control, but it may help you out.
Tense Lips
- If you tend to press your lips together, you should know that Liars are more likely to have this habit than people who tell the truth.
- Being literally tight-lipped could make you come across as untrustworthy.
Distance
- It's good to respect personal space, but when you lean away from someone, they're more
likely to suspect your motives. - The same goes for fidgeting or crossing your arms.
- Leaning forward suggests partnership & that they can rely on you.
Microexpressions
- No matter how hard you try to fix your face, it may still give you away & it only takes
a fraction of a second.
- Just a flash of a facial twitch, grimaceor raised brow leaves an impression that's hard
to shake. - So if your unguarded reaction to something is disgust, chances are an observer may
sense that in their gut, even if they can't say why.
Mirroring
- Copying the way someone's standing, their expressions, or even their accent often builds
trust & understanding between you. - This doesn't always work.
- If you're in a position of power over the person you're mirroring, it can weird them out.
- Another barrier is Botox when you can't furrow your brow alongside someone else, for
example, you won't be able to relate to their feelings as deeply & vice versa./>
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